Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor, long lost/new found friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity, all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become.
Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious as to when you open your heart.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen.
Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Most importantly, if you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. And learn a lesson in life each day you live.
Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday. Was it worth it? Expect your every need to be met, expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level, expect to grow spiritually.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Okay, it's been a long time now since I last posted an entry about me.
Anyway, since Uni started last Feb... my life has been a never-ending bullet train ride. I had to work fast with much consistency and effort. Okay, I'm doing the same number of subjects as last year. Well doi! that's mandatory >_<.. My subjects: Academic English, Physiology Practical, Principles of Physiology & Anatomy 1
Of all my subjects, my favourite would be Anatomy 1. It's not because of the practical component of it (e.g. looking at dissected cadaver specimens) but it's very challenging. It's interesting to know the parts and names of the bones, muscles, ligaments, nerves, blood vessels and much more. It's interesting to know how cancer spreads and how it relates to lymph nodes and valveless blood vessels; how to know the procedure to a lumbar puncture; the reasons behind a disc prolapse; the onset of arthritis or osteoporosis; a difference between lyphosis, kyphosis and scoliosis and many many more. Very interesting... the bad bit?!? THE MEMORIZING bit... analysing and relating one structure into the others is not that hard at all.. it's the memorizing of the names that's so hard core and muscle attachments.
Oh yeah.. here's an info about wrist laceration AKA para sa mga taong mahihilig maglaslas:
If you want to die WRIST LACERATION is not that effective! I REPEAT, WRIST LACERATION IS NOT THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO DIE!
The wrist is composed of 8 bones, long tendons from the flexors of the forearm, nerves, arteries and blood supply.
A sheet covers all these structures except for the Palmaris Longus tendon that goes over the sheet and the Ulnar Artery & Ulnar nerve.
WHEN YOU CUT YOUR WRIST, you damage a part of your palmaris longus ligament. A damage to the tendon of the muscle affects the functionality of that muscle in the forearm. Plus if you cut it further towards the ulnar side (the side of your wrist near the little finger), you damage your ulnar nerve & artery.
A damage to the nerve cuts the nerve supply (DUH) to the 1.5 fingers (little & 1/2 of ring finger) that results to numbness
Will you die?!? no. People who had amputation of their fingers, hands or the whole upper limb were still able to survive without the existence of a part or of the whole upper limb.
You want to die fast? Try something that will directly affect your heart & your brain.
Why some people die from wrist laceration? could be because the cutter they use has rust that gave an infection.
Plus, if your wrist is compressed... a damage of the median nerve could happen (the nerve inside the sheet)... some nerves do not grow back, most nerves do. a permanent damage to the nerve... tsk tsk... causes numbness on the structure that it attaches to.
sheesh.. enough about anatomy... too much anatomy makes a person go insane from all those jargon.
oh my... grabe, i lost track... 8:57pm na pala... i have to study pa.
It's a good thing na tom is the last day before we get a week vacation. It's not really a holiday for me since... i have to prepare for two mid-sem exams when i get back to uni, an oral presentation, a major essay, a group presentation and whew.. getting copies of past exam papers to prepare for the final semester exam.
This is just a piece of what is ahead of me... especially if i want to pursue medicine after my double degree. Well, I have a friend who does engineering & law and still wants to take medicine.. and a friend who was able to transfer from my degree to taking law. Law is as competitive as medicine, and if they made it... I will >_<
20 Do's & Don'ts of a Functional Relationship - by Eve Bernshaw
1. Who you think you are is important. Like attracts like. Do you like who you are?
2. What you want in a relationship is important, and when you are willing to ask for it, you will be able to create it. But only ask for what you want when you are clear about what it is. Until then, don't go around demanding things you just think you should have.
3. We get exactly what we focus on. The problem or the solution. We make a choice between them with every decision we make.
4. Tell yourself the truth about what you want, not what others (family, friends, spouse) say you should have.
5. Tell everyone else your truth about what you want. Don't be afraid to share your vision and dreams with those you love.
6. You are not defined by your relationships unless you choose to be. Consider what it says about you if you deed over you soul to one.
7. Interdependent (two independent people) relationships are the only ones that work, long term.
8. Truth is the first thing necessary to create trust in our relationships. Respect is earned from trust, and love is earned from respect. Intimacy is the gift we get when we risk telling the truth.
* See the hierarchy of a functional relationship
9. Fear of intimacy is fear of the truth. Your truth is better for you than someone else's. Just get to know what it is, so you can finally own it, and speak it..
10. If your relationship is not getting better, it is probable getting worse. Life is dynamic and nothing ever stays the same.
11. Every relationship is unique. It takes what it takes to work. If you want it to work, you have to work it. No shortcuts. No 50/50 deals.
12. It's not your job to fix your mate, and it's not his or her job to fix you. Take the relationship and what your mate says at face value and stop reading into it what you'd like to hear. We can work with what's real. It's impossible to deal with what's not real.
13. Unconditional love is an inside job. If you haven't gotten it by now, guess what...start working from within. When you can give it to yourself, you'll be ready to give it to someone else. If you can give it to someone else, you'll recognize it when it's given to you.
14. If you both are committed to creating a functional relationship, agree to start doing it today, without any judgments about the past. Be willing to work in the solution and let go of your need to control the outcome, moment to moment, one day at a time. Joy can only be experienced in the present moment
15. Most of our fears about what may happen in this relationship are really fears we experienced in past relationships, and have nothing to do with this person. Come to grips with what's real and what's Memorex! .
16. When in an argument, ask yourself Does this really PASS THE SO WHAT TEST? For you to be right does the other person have to be wrong? Think about it. Life is short. Don't waste it on arguments that have no meaning or purpose. You can always agree to disagree if you need to.
Then laugh about it, and go on to the next thing. Start observing your need to argue as just another dysfunctional, immature habit that needs to be broken.
17. When we finally learn to say we are sorry (at 3 or 93) we get to finally hear we are O.K. To error is human, and there is great virtue in all forgiveness, ourselves included. The best way to teach our children this lesson is by watching us demonstrate it.
18. Any negative, hurtful or sarcastic remark is abusive. Like a sharp knife, each word will carve out a chunk of a loving relationship that can never grow back. Please consider the source and outcome of your remarks, before you open you mouth to tell your truth.
19. Never let a day go by without saying and showing how much your relationship and partner mean to you. Never take a moment for granted. Express how grateful you are for your good fortune, however meek or humble it may be. Appreciation and gratefulness have magic in them. It seems the more we express them, the more reasons we are given to say thank you.
20. To have a functional relationship you have to be willing to risk loosing it everyday, by telling your truth. If you don't feel free to tell your truth, start asking yourself why you think it's so important to stay, and what else you are willing to loose besides your self-esteem.
For starters, you can ask your mate to tell their truth, and be willing to accept it at face value, without judgment. Now you both get to finally know the truth, and, if you each want a relationship based on what's real for both of you.
----------
HIERARCHY OF A FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP
INTIMACY
LOVE
RESPECT
TRUST
TRUTH
What is a functional relationship?
Without the beginning base of truth in a relationship, trust cannot occur. Without the development of trust, respect will never be born. Without a level of respect for another, a functional relationship of love will not seed and nourish the partners. Intimacy occurs when we become willing to share our whole selves with another in this order. It is the gift we get when we learn to engage in a balanced, loving
and functional relationship.
Learning Style:
1. Reflective Learner - strong preference
- Reflective learners prefer to understand the information best by thinking it quietly at first.
- Usual response "Let's think it through first."
- Prefers working alone
2. Sensing Learner - moderate preference
- Sensing learners tend to like learning facts.
- Often like solving problems well-established methods & dislike complications and surprises.
- Tend to be patient with details and good at memorizing facts and doing hands-on (laboratory) work
- Tend to be more practical & careful
- Does not like courses that have no apparent connection to the real world
3. Visual-Verbal Learner - well-balanced
- Visual learners remember best what they see -- pictures, diagrams, flow charts, time lines, films & demonstrations. Verbal learners get more out of words -- written & spoken explanations.
- Everyone learns more when information is presented both visually & verbally
- Good learners are capable of processing information presented either visually or verbally.
4. Sequential Learning - moderate preference
- Sequential learners tend to gain understanding in linear steps, with each step following logically from the previous one.
- Tend to follow logical stepwise paths in finding solutions.
- May not fully understand the material but they can do something with it since the pieces they have absorbed are logically connected
- May know a lot about specific aspects of a subject but may have trouble relating them to different aspects of the same subject or to different subjects.
My Eyes Adored You
CHORUS(My eyes adored ya
Though I never laid a hand on you
My eyes adored ya
Like a million miles away from me you couldn't see how I adored ya
So close, so close and yet so far)
Carried your books from school
Playin' "make-believe you're married to me"
You were fifth-grade, I was sixth
When we came to be
Walkin' home every day
over Barnegat Bridge and Bay
Till we grew into the me and you
Went our separate ways
CHORUS
Headed for city lights
Climbed the ladder up to fortune and fame
I worked my fingers to the bone
Made myself a name
Funny I seemed to find
That no matter how the years unwind
Still I reminisce 'bout the girl I miss
And the love I left behind
CHORUS(My eyes adored ya)
All my life I will remember
(Though I never laid a hand on you)
How warm and tender we were way back then, whoa, whoa, baby
(Like a million miles away from me you couldn't see how I adored ya)
Oh, the feeling, sad regrets
(So close, so close and yet so far)
I know I won't ever forget ya, my childhood friend
(My eyes adored ya)
(Though I never laid a hand on you)
(My eyes adored ya)
(Like a million miles away from me you couldn't see how I adored ya)
FADE
So close, so close and yet so far
Prinsesa by Teeth
source: 911tabs.com
+Intro: D-D/C#-C-G-; (4x) +
+ +
+D D/C# C G +
+Nakaupo s'ya sa isang madilim na sulok +
+D D?C# C G D +
+Ewan ko ba kung bakit sa libu-libong babaing nandoon +
+ C# +
+Wala pang isang minuto +
+ C G (Intro once) +
+Nahulog na ang loob ko sa 'yo. +
+ +
+D D/C# C +
+Gusto ko sanang marinig ang tinig mo +
+G D D/C# C G +
+Umasa na rin na sana'y mahawakan ko ang palad mo +
+D D/C# +
+Gusto ko sanang lumapit +
+C G D D/C# C-G +
+Kung di lang sa lalaking kayakap mo, ho o-o-oh. +
+ +
+Chorus +
+ +
+A D +
+Dalhin mo ako sa iyong palasyo +
+A D +
+Maglakad tayo sa hardin ng yong kaharian +
+A +
+Wala man akong pag-aari +
+ D A +
+Pangako kong habangbuhay kitang pagsisilbihan +
+G Gm D D/C# C G +
+O aking prinsesa ha-a-ah, prinsesa +
+ D D/C# C G +
+Prinsesa, prinsesa. +
+ +
+Ad lib: D-D/C#-C-G-; (2x) +
+ +
+D D/C# +
+Di ako makatulog +
+ C G D +
+Naisip ko ang ningning ng yong mata +
+ D/C# C G +
+Nasa isip kita buong umaga buong magdamag +
+D C# +
+Sana'y parati kang tanaw +
+ C G D +
+O ang sakit isipin ito'y isang panaginip +
+ D/C# C-G +
+Panaginip lang. +
+ +
+Repeat Chorus +
+ +
+Ad lib: D-D/C#-C-G-; (4x) +
+ +
+Repeat Chorus +
+ +
+ D D/C# C G +
+Prinsesa, prinsesa +
+ D D/C# C G +
+Prinsesa, a-ha-ah... (Fade)
Until Then By Side A
i long for the moment
when i see you again
i long to touch and stroke your long black hair
how my heart longs to show you how much i care
i wait for the chance
to feel your hair so fine
through this hand of mine
i long just to say
how i love you this way
its you i adore
forevermore
chorus:
until then
all i have is just a memory of you
that i can hold on to
until then
all i have is just this luxury of time
to wait and think of you
coz you'll be on my mind
until then
i go on believing
i see you standing there
with the wind blowing through your hair
i know that one day
i'll get you to stay
and together we'll soar
forevermore
chorus
i long for the moment
i long for the time
i'll take all my chances
until you are mine
chorus
until then...
until then...
until then...
The Sweetest Valentine
Source: Alvin =)
Note: Read this in a guy's point of view.
Feb 8, 2007
It's been nights since I could not stop from thinking on how I'll spend Valentine's, that is just days from now, for my Sweetheart, Darlene. I know that I have been given this impression that I'm fond of giving surprises but this one is different, she's the love of my life, so I wanted to make that night extra-special for her. She's so special that here I am on an airplane, which is scheduled to arrive in Manila tomorrow.
Once I get there, I will still not let her know that I'm there. I will surprise her on the 14th. I hope she's happy to see me, I can't wait to embrace her and kiss her once again. Now I know how hard it is to keep a long distance relationship.
Feb 11, 2007
Three days before the 14th, I am now desperate. I would not want to disappoint her on this very special day. This is after all, our first valentines together - I wouldn't want to mess up. And so far, what I still have on my bank of ideas is to give her her favorite Pink & Red Tulips on that day. It is still not enough... I would need a place for us to celebrate and something simple, not that extravagant but still romantic.
Feb 12, 2007
At this moment, I have decided to cook for her (pasta) and serenade (the song - Someday, Someday by Thirsty Merc). I know Someday, Someday is not your typical love song, it is not a ballad (but my version will be since I'm only going to use my guitar and not a hire a whole band) but the message of the song is just 'fantastic'. I have been rehearsing for my exclusive concert for one person and so far, I still have to sing/rap the lyrics a bit more faster to catch up to the tune.
Feb 13, 2007
I asked her room mate to let me borrow the whole living room, dining room and kitchen of their condominium where I plan to execute my surprise. I am glad that Keiko is such a friendly and cooperative person. She too is excited about my plan.
Today, I bought all the things that I would need. I bought the food that I will cook for her (i hope that she'll like it, as everyone knows that I do not cook very well), I bought rose petals, I bought the red & pink tulips for her, I bought candles and I bought another surprise for her.
I would think that everything is well set for tom, I'll just have to wake up early and go to their place while she's still in school and Keiko is too busy keeping her from going back to their crib until I send her a text message.
Feb 14, 2007
Okay, I was not able to sleep last night from preparing and rehearsing for my song. I am afraid that something wrong might happen, I don't want to mess things up.
At exactly 1 PM, I placed all the things that I needed inside the car (that I rented, of course). By 1:30 PM, I am already having my very very late breakfast and very late lunch at Mc Donalds near their University while I wait for Keiko. Keiko arrived at 2 PM and gave me the key to their condominium unit. After about 30 minutes of going back and forth from transferring all the things that I would need from the car to their unit, I was able to take a 30-minute nap.
At 3:30 PM, I started cooking the pasta. It took a while for it to cook and once my special Fettuccine is done, I let it set aside while I decorate the place. I decorated the living room with rose petals and candles at the floor. I also placed rose petals and candles at the dining table and placed our dinner as well. I placed my surprise gift for her at the coffee table in the living room beside the tulips.
By 4:45 PM, I used their bathroom to take a shower and I also made sure that the room was well ventilated so as to prevent the smell of the food from polluting the place. At 5:15 PM, I practiced my song for three times and started to write a card for her. By 5:38 PM, I was ready to give her this surprise and at the same time, I was so eager to feel and see her again. I called Keiko and told her to let her in the unit.
She arrived at 6:05 PM. With the lights off and only the lit candles enlightening the place, I felt nervous. When she came, I could not hold back the tears and the yearning of feeling her close to me under my arms. She was very very happy and was crying.
She enjoyed the food (that was good news) and liked the card. After dinner, I serenaded her and she looked lovely, it made me fall for her more. After my awful presentation, we sat at the sofa where she saw the tulips (which made her cry, by the way). She also notice the gift, she was really crying when she found out that it was a copy of her favorite movie - My Sassy Girl. We watched it together and had the best valentine's ever.
Damn, I am so in love.... Could she be the one? OR am I too fast to see what lies ahead?
This is for my better half:
When I met you I was not planning on falling in love. I was not planning on feeling so attracted to some one, but you awakened feelings inside me that I had forgotten existed.
When I met you I didn't realize how much our love would grow that the attraction that first brought us together would reach beyond passion to the comfort of knowing, I have someone very special.
When I met you I had no idea where our relationship would lead us. How beautiful you would make my world but now I know without a doubt that the luckiest day of my life was the day I met you.
You are a blessing that my entire being is very thankful for. I feel that we were made to love, listen, understand, and work through all times in our lives together and individually. I feel that we have shared more time together than we ever will and I know there are many more special occasions and moments in our lives that will surprise and bring us closer.
I miss you and my love will reach any distance and fly to be in your dreams each evening that we cannot be together. I physically long for you each night and will see you in my dreams until we find ourselves wrapped in the love that grows stronger and deeper each day.
It is important for me to express how much you mean to me. I wish I could do this in person while holding you in my arms and gazing into your eyes. But since we are actually separated by miles of emptiness, this expression must come in the form of letters such as this.
Hon, I know it is difficult for you, as it is for me, to be separated for so long. Life seems to be full of trials of this type, which test our inner strength, and more importantly, our devotion and love for one another. After all, it is said that true love is boundless and overcomes all forms of tests. Our love has been assaulted many times, and I am convinced that it is true love because the longer I am away from you, the greater is my yearning to be with you again.
It is hard to see us apart, even unbelievable that you won’t be with me this valentine’s. I have always breathed with you and my thoughts were every time filled by you. Do you know that you exist in me? You were with me from very first moment I saw you and fall for you in different way. I feel so special with you because you are just too special.
I know that it will take some time for us to be together forever but as far as possible we have to bear this time with patient and growing love for each other. Also we should remember that we have a destiny to be united one day for the rest of our life.
Just have faith and trust in me because my heart has always longed for you. I know that you are somewhere in this world waiting for us to be together again. I always knew that you are God’s gift to me so that I can see this world through your eyes.
I know that people change with time but please don’t let your love towards me change. I don’t mind you to change physically because even if I am deaf and blind, my heart will recognize you because my heart only beats for you.
So remember that the distance between you and me could always keep us close in our heart. I know that the memories that I had with you will be pain when I take my thought back to reality but I know that you are always there waiting for me with even more charm and growing love.
I will count the days till I meet you again. Remember that whenever you see the moon and the stars, think of me because somewhere faraway from you I will be also watching the same while thinking of you.
You are my Charming Prince, and I am your devoted Princess. I cherish every thought of you and live for the day when our separation will no longer be. Until that moment arrives, I send to you across the miles, my tender love, my warm embrace, and my most passionate kiss.
I love you, Ivan…
…forever and ever
Happy Valentine's Day!