When to let go?

> >Imagine this. In your hand is a very precious creation, so fragile, so
>valuable that if you keep on holding, it would either stay or fall apart.
>But you loved this creature so much, so much that letting it go would be
>like letting go of your life as well. So much that sometimes you wished it
>would be there forever. So much that you tend to be selfish at times so as
>you could make it stay for as long as you like.
> >Don't we all wish something "so good" could be forever? Don't we all hope
>that happiness is there to stay?

>There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone "so nice" and
>"almost perfect" and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted
>to that person (sometimes without even realizing it). This feeling soon
>become a part of our everyday lives and eventually guzzles our thoughts and
>actions to the extent that we tagged it as one of those "too good to be
>true" thing.

> >The sad part there is when we begin to realize that, this particular person
>feels totally nothing but friendship. A "thing" that would be forever a
>"thing" nothing more, nothing less...just a thing! You're just a friend,
>and
>that's the fact! Then in our desperate attempt to get closer (or at least
>be
>noticed), our efforts are still futile and we end up sorry for ourselves.

> >One person said, never ever let your heart run your life, as much as you
>can, always be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Try to listen
>not merely on what your feelings is invoking on you as a person but more
>importantly listen to reason as well.

> >Letting go of someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it
>only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without
>expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person
>free (in the real sense of it), but it is also setting yourself free from
>all animosity, revulsion, and resentment that was long kept in your heart.
>You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and
>weakens the littlest hope, making our lives more miserable than ever.
>Worst,
>presenting yourself as the "most affected one" sets the nastiest impression
>of all time--whatta a loser!

> >The trick there is...always remember that if you lose someone today, it
>means that someone better is coming tomorrow.

> >If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love...right? Just
>regard it as another mismatch of heaven! Well, you can cry of course, or
>whine or shout (growl even) if you have to, but make sure that after those
>outbursts you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past
>has
>left with you (easy said than done I know!).

> >We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace
>and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You
>really don't have to forget someone you love ('cause it's hard). What we
>need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter
>or sorry for what we have become. I think it's better that we give off that
>dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmmm..."Who could it be" is
>the next interesting question to ponder.
> >Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it
>does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

> > > > "I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the
>position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has had
>to overcome while trying to succeed."